Tamasia J. to the rescue!

One night, I was hanging out with one of my guy friends. He's a really cool guy. He makes me laugh, he's really sweet and for the most part, he does all the right things.. some of the time. We're hanging in his dorm, talking and laughing like we always do and he gets a phone call. It was weird because his phone was flipped over and on silent and somehow I saw it lighting up. I tell him is phone was ringing. He answers and from that point on it was not good.

As he is on the phone listening to whomever he is talking to, his tone does not sound good. I'm listening and hoping that it's not what I was thinking it was. Unfortunately, it was. A man who has had a strong impact on his life has suddenly died an awful death. Now, at first I didn't know this and I also did not know what to do, because for the most part, we are fairly new in each others' lives. People respond differently and need different things when they are hurt or angry or even happy. Honestly, I did not know what to do. All I could do was what I would have wanted if that would have happened to someone close to me. Oh man, I would be devastated.

When he began to cry, I knew it was something major. Still a little unsure, I took him my arms and told him if he needed to talk I was all ears. He began to cry on me and it was so sad and cute at the same time. After a while, he began to talk. I never said anything. All I did was listen. I still did not know what to do. Something like this has never happened to me before. I continued to hold him and if he began to cry harder, I would hold him tighter just to show that I was there. I was.

For the next couple of days, I checked on him here and there. I did not want to smother him. I mean, this person is something like a stranger. I did want him to know that I cared because I sincerely did.

Now that I think about it, I am glad I was there because I was not going to go and hang out with him that night. It’s weird the way things work out.

What would I do differently? Nothing. I think I handled the situation quite well. The entire time, I was thinking about my favorite person. If she was to suddenly not be in my life, I would go crazy. Even though her and I do not communicate all the time, just knowing that I CAN makes me smile. It would be difficult knowing that I could not call her for whatever reason, especially when she has been there for me through the tough times the last couple of years. I don't know, life is tough sometimes. One just has to be able to take the ball that's thrown at them and run with it.

I wonder, did I run? Or did I drop the ball?

TJ.